Why are so many people living lives of quiet desperation? Why does hopelessness and despair invade and pervade so many lives? Well, I think that the main reason is because of the way we perceive ourselves. It’s an identity crisis. We all want need to feel secure, to feel valuable and to feel accepted, and we judge ourselves by what others think of us. The world’s value system tells us in explicit and implicit ways that we have to look a certain way, have a certain amount of stuff, make ourselves into something that is highly esteemed by others, and behave in ways that make people like us and approve of us. Whether we realize it or not, we are continually comparing ourselves against others. We try so hard to fit the world’s standards so that we will receive the recognition and approval of others.
The problem with this type of value system is that appearance, achievement, affluence, and approval are all based on the fluctuating and unstable opinions of people. Opinions change far too often to make them trustworthy. Yet, we put our trust in them. Is it any wonder that we get frustrated and discouraged because we can’t seem to consistently measure up?
Studies show that we tend to base our self-esteem on what we consider the most important person in our life. So, let’s see what God says about you (as a believer in Christ):
- You were created in God’s image (Genesis 1:27). This means that you are a rational creation that is able to make moral choices. You have God’s DNA in you and have inherited some pretty impressive traits. You are able to be who you are meant to be. You can overcome temptation and are no longer a slave to the devil.
- You were chosen before the foundation of the world to be holy and blameless in GOD’S sight. In love He predestined you to be adopted as his child through Jesus Christ to become a part of His eternal family and Kingdom (Ephesians 1:4-5).
- You were created for good works which He prepared in advance for you to do, before He made the world. And, you are His workmanship. This word in Greek meant ‘work of art’, ‘masterpiece’ (Ephesians 2:10).
- You are adopted as a child of God and are co-heirs with Christ when you choose to believe and receive Jesus as your Savior (John 1:12).
- The power of the resurrection is inside you. And, if the Spirit of him who raised Jesus from the dead is living in you, he who raised Christ from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through his Spirit, who lives in you (Romans 8:11). Think about it! Believers are temples of the Holy Spirit. God’s Spirit resides in you. Part of the Creator of the universe resides in you!
- You are no longer condemned (Romans 8:1). You can’t let other people make you feel condemned. You can’t even condemn yourself. You are free from condemnation and acceptable to God.
- You are spiritually alive and will be seated in heaven with Christ (Ephesians 2:4-7). There is a special spot saved for you along with every believer.
- God created you in your mother’s womb and personally knows you (Psalm 139:13), (Jeremiah 1:5). This means you are not a mistake. You are exactly what God intended you to be.
- God loved you and sent His Son for you (1John 4:9-10). God loved you so much that He couldn’t bear for you to miss out on heaven and eternity with Him. He sent Jesus to die for you. Jesus chose to give up His mortal life for you. It is the greatest sacrifice and the greatest demonstration of love of all time. He loved you first and planned always for you to be His treasured possession (John 3:16).
- You are secure in Christ and will never die. Nothing—not the devil, the world or any person–can separate you from the love of God (John 10:28-29).
- You are free in Christ (John 8:36). What does freedom mean? It means that if you are a believer in Christ you are free of worry about your salvation. Free of worry about your future. Free of guilt and shame from your past. Free from the slavery to sin. Free of condemnation. Free from having to strive to be accepted. Free from doubting if God really loves you and cares about your welfare.
God loves you and accepts you. You are His. You are chosen. You are part of His eternal family. You are free of everything that would hold you back from being all Christ wants you to be. You are valuable and valued by the One who matters most.